First off, dating is defined as: “…the series of social engagements shared by a couple looking to get married…” (Merriam-Webster’s dictionary).
This is interesting because they are essentially saying that dating is with the intention of marriage, but the funny thing is that people speed date, and sometimes don’t always want to get married.
We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.
A PI Girl recently asked what the difference is between dating and courtship.
Her parents want her to wait to be courted until she is at least 18 years old.
She wants to know the appropriate age to court, and also whether people are supposed to date or if they court. First, let me define the meaning of dating and then explain courtship.
There are specific processes involved in proper dating that will help lead you down the right path. Again, this term is very rarely used in society today, and most do not have any idea what it really means.
Courtship crashed back onto the cultural landscape in a big way several years ago when Joshua Harris wrote the book These are good parameters. The heart of courtship is the notion that you won’t just date for fun but will pursue romance with marriage as an end goal. First Corinthians tells us to flee from sexual immorality. Limiting time alone is a great way to run from the temptation to get overly physical.
I’ve been around a lot of girls who court and a lot of families who want their children to court. Clearly, the basic principles of courtship are so important to living a lifestyle of purity.
Most of you may know both terms, and we have addressed this on PI a couple years ago.
But let’s refresh your memory first, then proceed with the questions regarding age, and so forth.
Webster’s states that courting is “to engage in social activities leading to engagement and marriage.” Most would reply, “But isn’t that dating? Courting is a separate but important and intricate part of the process pointing toward and leading to marriage.