There’s a broad spectrum of what it means for people to call themselves a Christian—from very liberal to very conservative and everything in between.
Just because a woman calls herself a Christian doesn’t mean her beliefs or lifestyle choices are the same as mine.”Define your standards in advance. Some Christian singles are reluctant to voice their convictions for fear of being labeled “old-fashioned” or “narrow-minded.” But it’s best to be up-front about what is and is not acceptable to you.
As Brad said, “I’ve heard Christian dating advice that assumes all Christians are exactly the same.
But it’s not as if every believer fits a certain profile.
Know what you’re doing and either stick with the plan or go somewhere safe, where you’re in the sight of others (particularly others who respect the need for purity).
You can still have a private conversation even in a room full of people.
Third, once you decide that you are ready to date, look to God's Word to decide the kind of person to date, and evaluate potential dating partners on those criteria, rather than relying primarily on the world's treatment of ideas like "attraction" and "chemistry." I wrote at some length on this in my article, "Brother, You're Like a Six." For you busy singles with time for only one mildly irritating column per day, the summary is this: Pick a potential dating partner with an eye toward godly manhood and womanhood — with an eye toward who would make a good husband or wife, defined by those characteristics esteems in His Word, not the ones Hollywood likes.There are plenty of them, but let's focus on what I believe are the top five myths that make dating harder for Christian men.Myth #1: "God has one woman picked out for you to marry. All singles who profess Christ and aspire to marriage — even as a possibility — have this responsibility (even outside this area of life, we should all be trying to grow in Christ). If you're already sure of that basic answer, are you a growing and mature Christian?Are you generally humble and teachable, and do you respect authority?The intentional man repeatedly and constantly goes first and takes on all of the risk of rejection.