“Don’t hurry to introduce someone new to your kids,” says Aaron Welch, a licensed therapist with The Lifeworks Group in Winter Park, Fla.“The tendency is to be very excited that you’ve met someone you really like—especially after a tough divorce.Because of that excitement, people believe their kids will share that same feeling.” Welch explains that children become attached to new people in their life. Romance”), licensed psychotherapist and author of “The Unofficial Guide to Dating,” children should not have any clue that their parents are dating. Tessina says, “Until the relationship is a serious one, children shouldn’t know about dad’s new partner.” She stresses to fathers that they need to really think about what they’re looking for in a new partner.If the relationship doesn’t work out, then the bond the children established is broken. Fathers are not only looking for a partner for themselves, she explains, but also a stepmother for their children.By Tara Lynne Groth Divorce is the end of a relationship, but how soon should divorced dads introduce the next relationship to their children?While co-parenting with their former spouse, adjusting to a new routine and establishing a separate household, dads may meet someone new whom they want to share their life and family with.It doesn't have to be a conversation about dating someone in particular.You can simply open it up by asking whether they've thought about the idea of you dating again someday, and how they think that might make them feel.
Parents who get into these relationships may have very different expectations for how things should be than the men and women who they’re bringing home.Lately, I’ve noticed a pattern of serial romantic relationships among friends who are dating online.They meet, and a few months later, introduce their new partner to their kids.But when you are ready to start dating and developing relationships again, the dating scene for a divorced dad is loaded with pitfalls.Divorced dads have some real challenges when entering the world of dating: a more-than-likely sour experience from the divorce and perhaps some negative feelings about women in general; a lack of recent experience in this arena and accompanying nervousness; often a self-esteem problem stemming from the divorce; and children, whether or not you are the custodial parent.It's possible that they'll become upset, but if that's the case, then having the conversation with them is even more important than it would have been if they'd been 100% supportive.