but I still enjoyed living vicariously through Connery, Brosnan and Moore.If you’re a red-blooded male, you can probably relate – there are certainly worse situations to find yourself in than hooking up with a wide variety of gorgeous women! Five, it triggers an ancient and long held fear in men of being cuckholded — that should you get pregnant, the baby might not be his.Eight, it puts you in the “not marriage material” camp.In fact a number of women have said to me that they’re afraid of wasting time, while at the same time feeling that time is running out, so they’re trying to effectively compact, for example, what would be a years worth of dating for another person, into a couple of months. It may feel like you’re auditioning them for what you feel is the big job of being ‘The One’ but you and they are people with feelings, libidos, imaginations, and love habits that may be counterproductive to you actually getting the relationship you want – adding several people to the mix just makes it messy.But equally, keeping your options open is about being non-commital and this is the mainstay of being emotionally unavailable and creating limited experiences that keep you ‘safe’ in a self-fulfilling prophecy bubble. Feeling like you have choices may convince you that you have more choices than you have and trap you indecision! Who said you have to go straight to a relationship? A couple of weeks ago I wrote about why dating is a discovery phase for fact finding.
or maybe you just want to sow your wild oats for a while before settling down with the right girl.Really multiple dating is just a code term for: 1) Keeping your options open.2) Being afraid of commitment because you’re afraid of getting hurt. Some people keep their options open because they want to shag around, they think there’s plenty of fish in the sea, and they also worry that someone who perfectly meets their criteria may be out there somewhere and are afraid of ‘settling’.Ricardus was one of the most prolific and respected coaches in the men’s dating advice industry. Ricardus is currently retired from the dating advice industry.He’s dated some of the planet’s most beautiful women, ranging from a Miss World contestant, to a model for Coca-Cola, to one of “Brazil’s Next Top Models.” His specialty is daytime street stops. Nine, it likely will cloud your judgement as far as any one guy. (Usual disclaimer, not all men are like that, not all women are like that.