When Mom has a boyfriend and Dad's remarried, parents must stay focused on the needs of their child.
Bringing a new person into the family can threaten the child's sense of security and belonging.
I often am asked to comment on whether it is okay for a parent to begin dating after their divorce. Regardless, divorce and dating is a challenging topic.
Parents are rightfully worried about how this process will affect their children and often acknowledge the separation of parents has been painful for their children. Understanding how to balance your child’s perspective with your own needs may help you make good decisions about introducing a new adult into your family. Even young children need to know that mommy or daddy needs to spend time with other adults.
If you are dating someone who may became a permanent fixture to your family, your children should understand the this person is special. Women especially put off dating by choosing to put their children first.
Bringing home casual dates can lead to increase anxiety and anger for some children. While your child should understand that you have made a decision to date, they do not need to know the details. While there may be times that this is necessary, demonstrating an unbalanced social life is not a good message for your children to learn.
If your child’s behavior seems to shift after the announcement that you plan to date, spend some time with your child.Parents who have successfully incorporated a mate have managed by listening to their child when s/he expresses concerns or fears about their changing world.They are observant and watch their child's behavior.With the US divorce rate still lingering around 50% for first marriages, many children have experienced their parents’ divorce by the time they are eighteen.And most adults are out and dating again within a year after their divorce, sometimes dating several partners before remarriage.Many couples considering divorce refuse to believe that divorce can have a negative effect on their children.