A man with kids has a lifetime obligation to those kids, and they will require his love, attention, and money.
If you find you don’t like to share, or you just don’t like kids, that’s fine — it’s better to know this and avoid dating men with children, rather than put yourself in a situation that isn’t fair to you, him, or the kids.
He’s a fantastic and committed single dad who has his 5-year-old son 50% of the time; he and his ex-divorced several years ago.
She has struggled with addiction, thus making co-parenting a bit of a struggle at times. He’s truly wonderful; he’s kind, thoughtful, treats me with so much respect.
However, don’t be too quick to toss out that cute dad’s phone number. Ideally, his parenting style will mesh with your beliefs about how children should be raised. Most of his time is devoted to his kids — and you must respect that.
Each divorced dad is different, and you may find one you really connect with. Once you meet a divorced dad’s kids, pay attention to their behavior. Some kids will be slow to warm up to you, and even the sweetest kids have bad days and can be bratty or cranky at times, but beware of children who disrespect you or their father, or who show consistent behavioral problems. The more parenting time a divorced dad has, the more his children will influence your relationship. Unless the divorced dad is a widow, all children come with a mom.
Either make it easy for them and tell them you appreciate environments that leave you fearing for your health, or invite them to your place for a snuggle and a movie.
Trust me, they could use a home away from home for the evening.
But she’s also much more clear about what she wants in life, and that's an attractive quality!
If you meet a guy you like and he has kids, here are some things to consider:1. Bad behavior often reflects ineffective parenting and other problems, and these problems will have a destructive effect on your relationship.3. There’s a difference between a divorced dad who has full custody because mom has serious issues and a divorced dad who only has his child during the summer. Hopefully, the single dad’s ex will be a reasonably nice person and he will have a good relationship with her.
The number of kids he has will affect your relationship BIG TIME. If the ex is difficult, this will cause problems down the road.
She may not have the time to see you as often as she’d like, and it’s not always as simple as hiring a sitter to go out.
Instead of taking the limits on her time as a slight, learn to look for other expressions of her feelings for you.
Consider this a “how to date a single dad” advice list. He’ll eventually realize he’s doing it and the conversation will then become first date appropriate.