Maybe it was my aloofness that drew in the dudes (straight girls take note), but damn, dudes were easy like ~Sunday morning~.
All you have to do is bat a lash, act entirely disinterested, cold and bitchy, and boys will fall at your feet.
I went from “on the fence” to over the fence in a hurry on that one just because I felt like her decision to allow me to pay was in bad taste. For instance, if yours is an old-school Butch/Femme pairing, you can bank on the fact that the Femme is most likely waiting for the Butch to make the first move. Men have been complaining about that one for centuries. Then there are other questions to consider based on a well you actually know each other. Do you trust her enough to go into her home blindly?
I personally love doing the asking and feel a sense of satisfaction from making the first move. If you aren’t in the full trusting mode of your relationship, you may want to stick with public places.
Lesbians all over the world struggle with the question of dating protocol every single day. How do you know who is supposed to wear the pants and pay for dinner? From the first date to a long term relationship, you have to figure things out how to make things work in your best interest. Even though there aren’t any cookie mold answers to all your questions about lesbian dating rules, there are certainly some good rules to live by. In general, if you’ve initiated the date, offer to pay for it. Sure, she might wave you off and insist on paying for her share.
The truth is, there’s no definitive answer about a lot of these things.
We discuss the pros and cons of each situation to help you to make up your mind.
Pros: If you’re really keen on your date and they seem keen on you too, you might wish to ‘strike while the iron is hot’ and drop the idea of meeting up into conversation.
Women aren't a simple stroll in the park; women are an uphill climb in dangerous weather conditions. Also, lesbian culture, by nature, is extremely elusive.Pros: The benefit of asking for a second date at the end of your first date is that you can gauge if it went well.It also shows your date that you are keen and takes the pressure off them if they were planning to ask you out again.Recently, I've been getting a lot of private Facebook messages from baby lesbians who are freshly out of the closet and asking me all kinds of questions:“How do I date girls? I will never forget how terrified I was when I first realized I wanted to exclusively swim in the girl pond. I exerted zero effort into attracting boy creatures, but I learned quickly that I didn't really need to. It can feel wildly intimidating to be a little, vulnerable kitten tossed into a teeming cesspool of seasoned dykes. you’ve arranged a first date with someone you’ve met online and it’s all going rather well, so well in fact that you would like to meet up again.