reporter Alex Williams, who argues in his article "The End of Courtship?
I'm lured in by these trend pieces and their sexy headlines and consistently let down by their conclusions about my generation's moral depravity, narcissism, and distaste for true love. Instead, I armed myself with a blasé smile and answered, "Just text me to let me know what's up. " Sure, I wanted a plan for when we were supposed to hang out but felt I needed to meet Nate on his level of vagueness. to ask "What's up" (no question mark — that would seem too desperate). When I saw him in class, he glanced away whenever we made eye contact. Instead, he said that he thought I was "really attractive and bright" but he just hadn't been interested in dating me. So to avoid seeming or any of the related stereotypes commonly pegged on women, I followed Nate's immature lead: I walked away to get a beer and dance with my friends. This anecdote sums up a pattern I have experienced, observed, and heard about from almost all my college-age friends.
I read with interest the numerous other articles, books, and blog posts about the "me, me, me generation" (as Joel Stein calls us), our rejection of chivalry, and our hookup culture — which is supposedly the downfall of college dating. I didn't walk away from my conversation with Nate expecting a bouquet of roses to follow. Nate never wrote or called me that night, even after I texted him at 11 p.m. As to why you got weird." But Nate didn't acknowledge his weirdness. But I didn't have the energy to tell Nate that I was sick of his (and many other guys') assumption that women spend their days plotting to pin down a man and that ignoring me wasn't the kindest way to tell me he didn't want to lead me on.
I am sitting in my dorm, having just applied Sally Hansen leopard-print press-on nails and wearing a chiffon dress from Forever 21 that my sister told me "looks really expensive." I am waiting to hear from a nerdy but cute guy I'll call Nate*, whom I know from class. " that millennials are "a generation confused about how to land a boyfriend or girlfriend."Williams is not the only one thinking about millennials and our potentially hopeless futures for finding love.
Rosin argues that hookup culture marks the empowerment of career-minded college women.
Hooking up is superficial and the human aspect is completely lost.In addition, some relationships cannot survive the distance because people find it hard to have a relationship that exists through a phone for weeks at a time.College is a time of growing and changing and because of this, people simply can outgrow a relationship that they feel no longer suits them.It can be hard to find the time to squeeze in a text or a phone call, especially when you could be hanging out with new friends or attending your school's big game. If so, you might work out in college -- but if not, one of you will get frustrated with the increased silence sooner or later. If your relationship will be long distance, is that feasible?Long-distance relationships aren't impossible, but they aren't exactly fun, either. You're going to college, but he's joining the military, or you're going to college, but she can't afford to.That's the hopeless romantic in me talking and he'll never shut up.