Believe it or not, Hinge, which is another dating app, ran a survey, and they found that this line improves your response rate likelihood by over 31%. It’s just like a fun little game for you guys to get to know each other.
If you try online dating, you likely have questions: The cliché is that women get a ton of messages. I get a lot of messages, but I have no interest in 90% of them. Seriously, if you put anything sexual in an introductory message, I think you’re an asshol E.
You sign up on a site, create a profile, and now you are ready to write your first online dating message to someone who caught your eye, but you freeze when you try to type the words.
Should you start off with a simple hello and see if you get a response? You may have tons of other questions running through your mind, but don’t let those doubts and worries stop you from reaching out to someone you are initially attracted to.
Here’s match.com’s relationship expert Kate Taylor with dating advice on how to give great copy.
The majority are boring, clearly copy/pasted, and do absolutely nothing to start a conversation. It’s hard enough to date someone who lives in a different borough of NYC! Maybe if you’re hilarious, gorgeous, AND bake macarons.
In the online world “You’re so beautiful” makes me roll my eyes and assume you type the same thing into every message box. I only respond to messages that show the person read my profile. Creepily noticing what time I’m online and asking me about it… I rarely get along with people who take themselves too seriously.
So trying one more time won’t automatically get you a CREEP label. But “hotspot” is my new favorite pet name, so thanks for that! And probably have IBS (something I mention in my profile).
Now if you demonstrate a great sense of humor and that we have things in common, I might entertain the “age is only a number” cliché. If you want responses to messages REFRAIN FROM ALL OF THE ABOVE. There’s also not so secret Reason #20: I’m just not attracted to you. BUT a good message can make a person so much more attractive, I’m not kidding! Ones that are too specific to be copy/pasted to the entirety of the online world.
If they love a certain stand-up comic, use the beginning of one of their jokes (Google is your friend at times like these).