contestants addressed the pressures of interracial dating on this week's episode, and the conversations did not go how many viewers — or star Rachel Lindsay — might have expected.More than one of the men competing for Lindsay's heart unveiled his personal dating history with women of color, engaging in an open discussion of when and how they should tell Lindsay, the first black Bachelorette in the show's history. "But growing up where I grew up, especially in high school, there weren't a lot of black girls." During his one-on-one date — which ultimately saw his elimination — he disclosed that he has mostly dated outside of his race.It's complicated Toya Lachon, 43, of Washington, D. Women are taking control of their happiness." Dating interracially can still come with backlash for both Black men and women.C., says she feels frustrated, hurt and even betrayed when she sees Black men with women of other races, but happy when she sees Black women in an interracial relationship. Lachon, who is seeing a White man, has experienced her share of adverse reaction.
I have my own unique experiences and some of them include having dated women who are white, but because interracial dating is such a historically tense and loaded subject, it's hardly ever looked at with any understanding or compassion for the people personally involved.
"I've come across a lot of men who tell me I should be ashamed and say things like, "It's not too late to come home" or "He won't know what to do with all of that." I've heard it all. But the negative comments can be more distressing when they come from family or close friends.
Asia Diggs Meador, 33, had never considered marrying outside her race.
Eric Bigger, a 29-year-old black contestant, explained to Unglert why it was more important for Gaskins to tell Lindsay. The subject came up again on Lindsay's one-on-one date Tuesday with frontrunner Bryan Abasolo, who is Colombian. ABC has never featured so many non-white contestants before Lindsay's turn, sparking years of criticism for ABC's lack of diversity.
Kareem Abdul-Jabbar commented in January on another point of frustration: the few diverse contestants who do make the cut each year only make it on the show "as a courtesy for a few weeks before being ejected." The reality star, who has been open about pursuing interracial relationships, told in May that "race didn’t play in as a factor" when it came to choosing her fiance, as the star has announced that she is, in fact, engaged.
The concept of a black man in a relationship with a white woman is a "thing" that people have an opinion on, and that opinion comes with an entire set of stereotypes, fueled by racist ideology, a complicated past, and sometimes even pop culture.